Ashley Zahabian & Alexandra Renders · Founding Team
My Healing Work™ is a self-administered therapeutic program for the full spectrum of codependency, from anxious borderline patterns to avoidant narcissistic traits, built on psychoanalytic theory and proprietary research, designed to heal the underlying wounds, not just manage what shows on the surface.
Built by people who lived through codependency and healed from it, including those who have been through the full depth of BPD and NPD, who understand every step of what it takes to get out.
Ashley Zahabian & Alexandra Renders · Founding Team
We believe you can heal. We are deeply passionate about helping people heal the wounds beneath their patterns. My Healing Work™ was created on the belief that true transformation is possible when people address the root, not just the surface.
How it began. We built this because we lived inside these patterns, and we couldn't find a program that went deep enough. Most approaches address the surface: the conflicts, the reactions, the cycles. We wanted to go where the real damage was done, and build a path out that had an actual end.
My Healing Work™ is the result of years spent understanding why people who desperately want to heal, who have tried therapy, books, and every tool available, still find themselves repeating the same patterns. The answer wasn't more symptom management. It was going to the root. The result is a program with a beginning, a middle, and a real end, measured not by time spent, but by how far you've actually come.
My Healing Work™ is built on RIM, a proprietary therapeutic framework developed from years of psychoanalytic research. It targets the root of codependent personality patterns, not just the symptoms they produce.
Here you uncover the distorted inner narratives that keep the pattern alive, and gently bring them back into reality. This is where true clarity begins.
Here you begin to detach from internalized voices of shame, criticism, and survival formed in childhood, the distorted inner voice that still shapes your perception, reactions, and relationships.
Here you restore the ability to see yourself and others clearly, no longer through idealization, fear, or distortion. This is where stable identity and healthy relationships begin.
Alexandra came to RIM™ as a client. What she experienced through the program wasn't just improvement. It was a complete transformation she hadn't believed was possible. After completing the work, she knew she couldn't keep it small. She founded My Healing Work™ to bring RIM™ to a wider scale, so that the transformation she experienced could be available to anyone who needed it.
Ashley created the Reality Integration Method™ after years of psychoanalytic research and her own lived experience with codependency. She developed the framework, the measurement tools, and the clinical structure that RIM™ is built on. She remains an active part of the team and the ongoing development of the program.
Dr. Ani is a research psychologist who has herself lived through anxious codependency and trained fully in RIM™. She works 1:1 with clients who opt into coaching, bringing both the clinical depth of her research background and the personal understanding of someone who has been through the work. Having experienced the transformation of RIM™ firsthand, she brings a rare combination of academic rigor and lived empathy to every client she works with.
Pascal is a certified coach holding an ICI designation from NLP University International. He serves as an advisor to My Healing Work™, bringing his expertise in behavioral change and transformational coaching to the direction of the company and the people it serves.