Anxious Borderline Codependent · BPD

The Anxious Borderline Codependent Program

A structured, self-paced program built on Reality Integration Method™, designed to heal the root of anxious borderline codependency, not just manage what shows on the surface.

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Most people with anxious patterns have spent real time in therapy, genuinely doing the work, and still find themselves back at the beginning
Temporary is how most describe the progress, it helps for a while, then something happens and the old patterns return
The root beneath the fear, the reaching, and the cycles is what keeps recreating everything, and what this program is designed to reach

What is Anxious Borderline Codependency?

You feel deeply, attach quickly, and live in fear of losing the people you love. This video explains where the pattern comes from, and why the most common approaches often help for a while before the same cycles return.

Understanding anxious borderline codependency

Understanding anxious borderline codependency

You might recognize yourself here

This pattern shows up differently in everyone. But there are common threads, and if several of these land, you're probably in the right place.

You feel things more intensely than most people around you, and you've been told that's a problem
Relationships start with intensity and often end in confusion, hurt, or feeling abandoned
You give more than you receive and don't fully understand why you keep ending up in the same dynamic
You fear being abandoned, even by people who haven't given you a reason to doubt them
You've been in therapy, sometimes for years, and keep returning to the same patterns despite the work
You struggle to trust your own perception, wondering if you're overreacting or if something is genuinely wrong
You love deeply, but love rarely feels safe, it feels like something you could lose at any moment
You know something is wrong at a deeper level than your coping skills can reach

How Reality Integration Method™
works

RIM works through three sequential steps, each one building on the last, moving you deeper into the root of the pattern rather than managing what shows on the surface.

01

Letting Go of the Fantasy

You learn to identify the gap between your distorted internal narrative and objective reality. Using structured benchmarks, you begin comparing how things feel against how they actually are, and closing the gap.

02

Becoming Your Own Person

You begin separating from the critical inner voice formed early in life, the one that still shapes how you see yourself, interpret others, and move through relationships without you realizing it.

03

Rebuilding Healthy Relationships

You restore the ability to see people, including yourself, as whole, complex individuals rather than all-good or all-bad. This is the foundation of stable identity and healthy relationships.

Everything you need
to reach your baseline

8 Core Modules

Structured video content and exercises for each step of the RIM process, accessible on iOS and Android at your own pace.

Personal Coach (add-on)

Upgrade to add a dedicated specialist who monitors your progress, guides you through modules, and provides ongoing support until you reach your baseline.

Live Weekly Workshops

Group sessions with RIM specialists to go deeper on the material and connect with others walking the same path.

Symptom Tracking

Regular self-assessments and a real-time dashboard that tracks your progress across all categories as you move through the program.

Community Access

A private space to connect with peers and specialists, available throughout your program.

9–6 pm EST Support

Access to RIM specialists 9–6 pm EST, Monday–Friday. You are never alone in this process.

Simple, honest pricing.

Access continues until you reach your healthy baseline, not until your subscription runs out.

Self-paced
$250/mo

Work through the program on your own schedule, with full access to all 8 core modules and your symptom dashboard.

  • All 8 core modules
  • Monthly symptom assessments
  • Progress dashboard
  • Community access
  • Access until baseline
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Group Journey
$625/mo

Everything in With Coaching, plus an intimate group of 6–10 people going through the program alongside you, with group classes.

  • All 8 core modules
  • Monthly symptom assessments
  • Progress dashboard
  • Community access
  • Personal coach assigned to you
  • An intimate group of 6–10 people going through it with you
  • Group classes
  • Access until baseline
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Frequently asked

No. This is a self-paced educational program, not a substitute for licensed therapy or clinical care. Many people use it alongside existing therapy. The two address different layers and work well together. If you have concerns about your mental health, please speak with a qualified professional.
Many people in the program continue working with a therapist at the same time. This program focuses on the root relational pattern; therapy often addresses what comes up day to day. Most clients find the two complement each other well.
The best way is through our free consultation. A specialist will walk you through the intake process and help you understand whether anxious borderline codependency describes your experience, without any pressure to enroll.
Most people reach their baseline within 8–12 months, depending on their starting score and how consistently they work through the modules. Payments end at month 12 regardless of where you are in the program.
Some people carry elements of both patterns. The free consultation is designed to help sort this out, our specialists are trained to identify which pattern is dominant and guide you toward the right starting point.
Yes. Your symptom data, module progress, and anything shared within the program is private and confidential. It is never shared with third parties.
"This program has an end. Not when your subscription runs out. When your symptom score says you're done."

— My Healing Work™

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