A structured, self-paced program built on Reality Integration Method™, designed to get underneath the pattern of anxious borderline codependency, not just manage what shows on the surface.
Free consultationYou feel deeply, attach quickly, and live in fear of losing the people you love. This video explains where the pattern comes from, and why the most common approaches often help for a while before the same cycles return.
Understanding anxious borderline codependency
This pattern shows up differently in everyone. But there are common threads, and if several of these land, you're probably in the right place.
RIM works through three sequential steps, each one building on the last, moving you deeper into the root of the pattern rather than managing what shows on the surface.
You learn to identify the gap between your distorted internal narrative and objective reality. Using structured benchmarks, you begin comparing how things feel against how they actually are, and closing the gap.
You begin separating from the critical inner voice formed early in life, the one that still shapes how you see yourself, interpret others, and move through relationships without you realizing it.
You restore the ability to see people, including yourself, as whole, complex individuals rather than all-good or all-bad. This is the foundation of stable identity and healthy relationships.
Each module builds on the last, moving you through the full RIM process at your own pace.
Understanding how unprocessed loss and grief sit at the foundation of codependent patterns, and why moving through it, not around it, is where real change begins.
Mapping the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant attachment, how they find each other, what they recreate, and what each person is protecting underneath.
Separating genuine empathy from the hypervigilance that gets mistaken for it, understanding how survival-based attunement shapes the way you move through relationships.
Separating the trait from the identity, what narcissism actually is, where it comes from, and how it lives inside both people in the codependent dynamic.
Beginning the psychological process of separating from the internalized patterns, voices, and identities that were never truly yours to carry.
Becoming your own person, developing a stable, grounded sense of self that doesn't depend on others to define, validate, or complete it.
Bringing the work together by restoring the capacity to see yourself and others as whole, the foundation of genuine, non-reactive relationships.
The finish line. Establishing your baseline, integrating everything you've learned, and building a life no longer shaped by the old pattern.
Structured video content and exercises for each step of the RIM process, accessible on iOS and Android at your own pace.
Upgrade to add a dedicated specialist who monitors your progress, guides you through modules, and provides ongoing support until you reach your baseline.
Group sessions with RIM specialists to go deeper on the material and connect with others walking the same path.
Regular self-assessments and a real-time dashboard that tracks your progress across all categories as you move through the program.
A private space to connect with peers and specialists, available throughout your program.
Access to RIM specialists 8–6 pm EST, Monday–Friday. You are never alone in this process.
Full program access at your own pace. Most people reach their baseline well within 12 months, payments stop there either way.
Everything in Self-paced, plus a dedicated personal coach guiding you through every step. Payments end at 12 months.
"This program has an end. Not when your subscription runs out. When your symptom score says you're done."
— My Healing Work™
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