A structured, self-paced program built on Reality Integration Method™, designed to get underneath avoidant narcissistic codependency, not just the behaviors it produces on the surface.
Free consultationYou protect yourself with distance, self-sufficiency, and control. This video explains what's actually driving that pattern, and why most approaches work on the behavior without ever reaching the wound underneath.
Understanding avoidant narcissistic codependency
The avoidant pattern is often invisible from the outside, and easy to rationalize from the inside. But if several of these land, you're probably in the right place.
The three steps are the same as the anxious program. The starting point is different, because the defense looks different. Avoidance and grandiosity are armor. This work gets underneath them.
You begin identifying the grandiose narratives and entitlement beliefs that protect you from facing the fragility underneath, and comparing them against objective reality benchmarks.
You separate from the internalized shame and the compensatory identity built on top of it, the false self that requires constant admiration and control to stay intact.
You develop the capacity to see others as whole people, with needs, complexity, and worth independent of their usefulness to you. This is where genuine connection becomes possible.
Each module builds on the last, moving you through the full RIM process at your own pace.
Understanding how unprocessed loss and grief sit at the foundation of codependent patterns, and why moving through it, not around it, is where real change begins.
Mapping the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant attachment, how they find each other, what they recreate, and what each person is protecting underneath.
Separating the trait from the identity, what narcissism actually is, where it comes from, and how it lives inside both people in the codependent dynamic.
Separating genuine empathy from the hypervigilance that gets mistaken for it, understanding how survival-based attunement shapes the way you move through relationships.
Beginning the psychological process of separating from the internalized patterns, voices, and identities that were never truly yours to carry.
Becoming your own person, developing a stable, grounded sense of self that doesn't depend on others to define, validate, or complete it.
Bringing the work together by restoring the capacity to see yourself and others as whole, the foundation of genuine, non-reactive relationships.
The finish line. Establishing your baseline, integrating everything you've learned, and building a life no longer shaped by the old pattern.
Structured video content and exercises for each step of the RIM process, accessible on iOS and Android at your own pace.
Upgrade to add a dedicated specialist who monitors your progress, guides you through modules, and provides ongoing support until you reach your baseline.
Group sessions with RIM specialists to go deeper on the material and connect with others walking the same path.
Regular self-assessments and a real-time dashboard that tracks your progress across all categories as you move through the program.
A private space to connect with peers and specialists, available throughout your program.
Access to RIM specialists 8–6 pm EST, Monday–Friday. You are never alone in this process.
Full program access at your own pace. Most people reach their baseline well within 12 months, payments stop there either way.
Everything in Self-paced, plus a dedicated personal coach guiding you through every step. Payments end at 12 months.
"The work isn't about becoming someone different. It's about becoming someone real."
— My Healing Work™
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